As a person with an eating disorder starts making progress in the recovery process, it’s important that they make peace with the people in their life. People looking to achieve anorexia recovery in Roseville must open a dialogue with family and friends in order to clear the air and move forward in a healthy way.
Making Peace is a Two-Way Street
Eating disorders involve behaviors that can be very hurtful not only to the person with the disorder, but also to the people around them. And family and friends sometimes respond in ways that aren’t constructive. It’s difficult for a person to fully recover from an eating disorder until that emotional “baggage” is unpacked. It can be a very difficult process, but it’s worth the effort.
It’s important to note that “making peace” isn’t about simply saying “I’m sorry.” Apologies might be part of the process, but making peace goes much deeper. It’s also not about assigning blame or asking for/granting forgiveness. It involves looking at why the person with the eating disorder said the things they said and did the things they did — and making the same assessment of the behavior of family and friends. It’s only through understanding our motivations that we can truly grow.
For example, if a person began losing weight in response to what they perceived as subtle pressure from a parent or significant other, that needs to be discussed so that the pressure doesn’t have a negative impact on their recovery efforts. And, if what was felt to be pressure was really the loved one trying to provide positive encouragement for what they thought was the achieving of fitness goals, that needs to be explained and discussed. Often relationship issues are the result of lack of communication or miscommunication. By discussing the different ways a shared experience was perceived, you can start repairing and strengthening bonds.
When the Time is Right
In many cases, the right time for making amends with loved ones is after you’ve started getting some traction in your recovery. That’s when you are more likely to have the physical and emotional strength, and the perspective on past events that you need to start a healthy dialogue. If you’re striving for anorexia recovery in Roseville, our programs can help. Give us a call to learn more: 916-784-1120.